Walking on Eggshells 살얼음판 위를 걷고 있어요

Dear Annie: Lately, I've been struggling with my husband's temper, and I don't know what to do. When things don't go his way -- whether it's something small like dinner plans or something bigger like finances -- he lashes out. He calls me names, belittles me and makes me feel like I'm always in the wrong. I try to keep the peace, but it feels like nothing I do is ever good enough. One thing that really bothers me is that he's started throwing away my makeup, telling me I don't need it. It feels

Finding Financial Balance 경제적인 균형 찾기

Dear Annie: Money can be one of the biggest sources of stress in a marriage, and it sounds like some people who write in to you feel more like accountants than equal partners. That's a red flag. A healthy financial arrangement should feel fair, transparent and respectful -- not like you're under a microscope while your husband has free rein. My husband and I have always shared a joint checking account, but I've started to feel like I have little control over our finances. Even though I earn as m

Finding Joy in Work: Passion or Perspective? 일에서 행복 찾기: 열정 혹은 관점?

Dear Annie: It saddens me to see so many people who don't enjoy their jobs. I was fortunate; I spent 42 years as a teacher, and while my first year in a middle school was the toughest, the rest of my career was incredibly fulfilling. I truly loved what I did. Beyond the classroom, I also coached two or three sports for most of my career, only stepping away from coaching in my last 10 years. Teaching and coaching allowed me to build strong relationships with my students, and I took great pride in

Choosing to trust 믿기로 하는 것

Dear Annie: I love my boyfriend, "Tom," with all my heart. We've been together for almost two years, and he's never given me a reason not to trust him. But lately, I've been struggling with doubt and insecurity, and I hate feeling this way. A few nights ago, we were out to dinner when his phone buzzed. He glanced at it, smiled and quickly put it face down on the table. It was probably nothing, but my mind instantly spiraled ─ was he talking to someone else? Was he hiding something? I didn't say

Fairness in Friendship 친구 사이에서의 공정함

Dear Annie: I went on a 10-day girls trip with five other women, including my best friend. By the third day, I realized I was being singled out for having different opinions and struggling to keep up physically. I have lung disease, but these women (all older with their own limitations) dismissed it as something an inhaler could fix. We had agreed to stay in pairs for safety, yet I was left alone at the Airbnb when I needed to rest due to swollen legs. They said they'd send someone back for me,

Not Making Excuses Anymore 더이상 변명해주지 않을거에요

Dear Annie: My husband pouts and refuses to come with me when I visit our kids and grandkids, choosing instead to stay home watching TV and playing on his computer. I used to make excuses for him -- saying he was busy or doing chores -- but now I just tell the truth: "Grandpa's crabby and staying home." His father used to fake stomachaches and headaches to get out of things, and now he's doing the same. When he started that routine with me a few weeks ago, I called him out: "I understand you don

Dreams Don't Have Deadlines 꿈에는 마감기한이 없어요

Dear Annie: From the time I was in second grade, I knew I wanted to be a writer. But everyone around me insisted it was a terrible idea. So, I chose the "safe" path and became a teacher, spending two years in a high school English classroom before transitioning to a role as a school librarian. I also married a man I believed was the love of my life -- someone who shared my writing ambitions. But shortly after we wed, he made it clear: There would be only one writer in our family, and it wouldn't

Should I Stop Confiding in a Friend Who Dismisses My Problems? 제 문제들을 대수롭지 않게 여기는 친구에게 비밀을 털어놓는 걸 그만둬야 할까요?

Dear Annie: I was out having lunch with a friend I've known for many years. We met when our children were babies; they are grown adults now. We have only been meeting up once a week for lunch since April 2024, as we both have more time now that I have retired and she works part time. The thing is, I'm feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment. I got a new puppy in October 2024. I also have been suffering anxiety, exhaustion and feeling stressed, so I'm not really in a positive frame of mind. I was

Struggling With Screen Time 스크린타임 문제로 힘들어요

Dear Annie: I never thought I had a screen time problem until my daughter called me out. The other night, we were sitting on the couch together, and she was excitedly telling me about her day. Without thinking, I picked up my phone to check a notification. She stopped mid-sentence and sighed, "Never mind, you're not even listening." That hit me hard. I realize now that screens are pulling me away from the things that matter most. I scroll through social media when I should be sleeping, leaving m

Keeping it professional 일적인 관계 유지

Dear Annie: About a year and a half ago, my husband's uncle helped us hire a cleaning lady. My husband and I both work, so this cleaning lady comes one Saturday a month because that's our shared day off. We pay her good money, and she does a pretty good job. The only problem I have is that she asks very personal questions. My husband and I are usually very quiet around her. We always offer her something to drink when she arrives. She eventually asks us very personal questions, and we always answ

Is Unsolicited Parenting Advice Ever OK? 청한적 없는 육아 조언 해도 될 때가 있을까요?

Dear Annie: I believe it's a bad idea for people to share their unsolicited opinions on other people's parenting, especially not someone like me, who is young, single, childless and barely knows what to do with my own life. Still, I can't help but worry about my brother's lifestyle. His house is a mess, and not just a "child lives here" kind of messy, but the kind where the dining room is never used to dine in because the chairs and table are always occupied with things. His 4-year-old daughter

Managing Money With Mother-in-Law 시어머니와 돈 관리하기

Dear Annie: My mother-in-law recently moved in with us after a very (thankfully) minor stroke. She has NO savings, and up until that point she was working sporadically just to keep a roof over her head and food in her belly. If I may backtrack back to the no savings ... For the past 30 years, she has literally laid in bed and watched TV all day after her husband left her. She would occasionally pick up a job but always lose it within a few months. She eventually moved in with her mother, who flo

Asking Husband for Financial Transparency 남편에게 경제적인 투명성을 요구하기

Dear Annie: I've been married for over 20 years, and my husband has always handled our finances. I trusted him to take care of everything, but recently, I've started to feel uneasy. When I ask about our savings, bills or retirement plans, he either brushes me off or gives vague answers. I don't know if he's hiding something or if he just doesn't think I need to know. I don't want to accuse him of anything, but I also don't want to be in the dark about our financial situation. What if something h

Reconnecting With Son After Years of Distance 수년간 멀리 지냈던 아들과 다시 연을 이어가기

Dear Annie: I'm a 73-year-old widow, and I lost my husband in 2018. I had two grown sons; one passed away last October, and the other no longer speaks to me. He believes I abandoned him, though we were never very close. In 2012, he convinced me to move into a home he purchased, saying it would be best for my husband and me. Later, he claimed the mortgage required him to live there, too. Our relationship was strained; he barely acknowledged us unless he needed help with his son, my only grandchil

Comfort Versus Chemistry 편안함 VS 끌림

Dear Annie: I really need help. I'm a 28-year-old woman living in New York City. For the past three years, I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend, "Charles." He's 31, works in tech and is super ambitious. We met in college, and while we've always gotten along well, I've started to notice some major differences between us as we've gotten older. To give you some context, I'm someone who craves emotional connection. I love having deep conversations, spending quality time together a